2013 came in as a whirlwind for our family. We knew on January 1, 2013, that we were going to be the adoptive parents of our 2 little boys who we got in foster care that July. They got to change their names and really feel a part of the family. They continued therapy and we slowly got them to be at ease with their past and to understand that they were not at fault for being beaten by their birth father and his girlfriend.
In May, we had an official adoption day. YEA! We celebrated as they have never know, renting bouncy castles, hosting a BBQ and invited 100 of our family and friends.
June came with some perils as their birth dad was bailed out of jail by his mother and jumped bail. As I sat in the court house, stunned and crying as they issues a federal bench warrant with no clue as to his whereabouts. We opted to close the adoption after the grandmother bailed out their dad, knowing that we would have issues. She has tried to get information on them, calling CPS, Breckin’s school and even their current therapist. We discovered that Trystan is gluten intolerant. So beginning in June, We started changing how we ate (yet again) in our home. Gluten-free pasta is surprisingly tasty!
We are thrilled to have such an amazing support system in place. Trystan started Kindergarten and Breckin is in 2nd grade with Berlyn and are all doing amazingly well ( Trystan’s exception is days that he decided to steal (or share) food that he is not allowed to eat.0 They continue to progress into fantastic children, slowly forgetting the horrors of their past. Shelby and Griffen are both enrolled into public school this last semester and are doing quite well. El and Ro are continuing at home and love all of the mommy one on one attention.
We attempted to contact the boys’ birth mom with several emails and to several different email addresses that we had for her but have yet to hear anything. We finally got their birth certificates and Social Security cards in December. They are officially ours! On December 24th, we received an message that one of their step-moms heard that birth dad was arrested. On December 26, he was booked back into the local jail house waiting a pre-trial. So… their story doesn’t end quite yet. Larry and I will be at all future court hearings to finish this out.
Where do we go from here? We are back on the list for foster/adopt for a little girl too. We hope to adopt again in the future and know that if it is in God’s plan, then we shall again.
2016 update – Trystan and Breckin are doing better than expected. Yes, we do have 3+ day a week therapy and are still working through shoplifting and eating disorders. But, we can do this! And they know that they will always have food and will always be loved.
We are still certified foster parents through Arizona Childrens Association. (AzCA) http://www.arizonaschildren.org/